Friday, March 30, 2012
Over ambitious?! Maybe a little
So, as anyone may see when they run across this blog...I am in the process of updating it and it's definately a work in progress. Not a lot of time with a 10 month old getting into everything he sees as soon as my butt hits the chair! I'm also thinking about starting a new blog and attaching it to this one about our baby food making. With recipes, do's and dont's, and our trials and tribulations. Not sure when this will happen or what I'm really thinking doing that...see above statement about 10 month old terror. Eventually I know I will get this all worked out the way I would like but, until then I just ask people to bear with me and I promise this will be a nice blog...at some point. I am also thinking about starting a facebook page to mirror this blog. All this and running a business?! WTF am I thinking?
Wednesday, March 21, 2012
Some people.
Why is it that some other mothers feel the need to tell you how to parent your children?
I am all for asking for help and asking for others opinions. This is not what I mean though. I enjoy researching things about babies and parenthood in general. I like to go onto the discussion boards especially and read about what other mothers are concerned about and talking about. I have run across this problem myself when asking for opinions but, more so when just reading through others posts. There seems to be several types of mothers (and fathers) out there but, the one I'm talking about is the "This is how I do it so it's the only way that's right." This type of person seems to feel that if you are not doing things the way they would then you are in "fact" doing it wrong. I know someone who has this type of personality and we indeed clash quite often.
Here is an example: A new mother had posted a question asking what types of juice she could give her 9 month old. The first few people either said to give a diluted type and some of them said that there was no need yet but, were in no way rude about it. Then there was one poster who told the woman that giving her child juice was a disgusting choice because it would rot her baby's teeth and they would fall out. Seriously!?
The woman then rebuted stating that her pedi told her that it was okay to give juice and she was just looking for options as to what type. In response the same poster said that she needed to get a new pediatrician and that her doctor was "wack." LOL! That giving a child juice and even solids was stupid to do until they are ready. Again the woman came back and said that her child had been on solids since 6 months, that it was going just fine and that she didn't see any reason it was such a horrible idea to give juice to her baby. It was then stated that a child shouldn't get juice because it will make them fat and lazy, that her child hadn't even really eaten solids until 13 months because they would gag on it.
This is exactly what I am talking about. Why do some people feel the need to push their opinions on others. They are just that OPINIONS! Half the time these types of people tend to give their opinions whether they were asked or not. I cannot stand this and it amazes me everytime how rude some people can be when it comes to other peoples children. You are being asked for your opinion, not being asked to push your beliefs and be rude. I feel for some of the younger mothers out there that have to endure this all the time.
My advice to any new mom or mom-to-be....ask for advice, listen to it, take it all with a grain of salt and do what feels right to you. In the end of it all that is truely all that matters.
I am all for asking for help and asking for others opinions. This is not what I mean though. I enjoy researching things about babies and parenthood in general. I like to go onto the discussion boards especially and read about what other mothers are concerned about and talking about. I have run across this problem myself when asking for opinions but, more so when just reading through others posts. There seems to be several types of mothers (and fathers) out there but, the one I'm talking about is the "This is how I do it so it's the only way that's right." This type of person seems to feel that if you are not doing things the way they would then you are in "fact" doing it wrong. I know someone who has this type of personality and we indeed clash quite often.
Here is an example: A new mother had posted a question asking what types of juice she could give her 9 month old. The first few people either said to give a diluted type and some of them said that there was no need yet but, were in no way rude about it. Then there was one poster who told the woman that giving her child juice was a disgusting choice because it would rot her baby's teeth and they would fall out. Seriously!?
The woman then rebuted stating that her pedi told her that it was okay to give juice and she was just looking for options as to what type. In response the same poster said that she needed to get a new pediatrician and that her doctor was "wack." LOL! That giving a child juice and even solids was stupid to do until they are ready. Again the woman came back and said that her child had been on solids since 6 months, that it was going just fine and that she didn't see any reason it was such a horrible idea to give juice to her baby. It was then stated that a child shouldn't get juice because it will make them fat and lazy, that her child hadn't even really eaten solids until 13 months because they would gag on it.
This is exactly what I am talking about. Why do some people feel the need to push their opinions on others. They are just that OPINIONS! Half the time these types of people tend to give their opinions whether they were asked or not. I cannot stand this and it amazes me everytime how rude some people can be when it comes to other peoples children. You are being asked for your opinion, not being asked to push your beliefs and be rude. I feel for some of the younger mothers out there that have to endure this all the time.
My advice to any new mom or mom-to-be....ask for advice, listen to it, take it all with a grain of salt and do what feels right to you. In the end of it all that is truely all that matters.
Tuesday, March 13, 2012
The grass is a little brown on the other side....
Since my son was born in June last year he was too little to "play" outside. Here the weather has been warming up and feeling more and more like spring. Today I decide to take the monster out to play in the yard for the first time...
First off we just moved due to some very unfortunate circumstances and basically our own stupidity for believing a large coorporate bank would want to help us...even though they said they would. A very unfortunate event indeed but, I digress...and this is a story for a later date.
Our "yard" is shared by us and a house that is in front of ours. This yard has a concrete path that runs directly through the middle of it, reducing it's postage stamp size to well...half. There are also about 5 large rose bushes randomly placed throughout the yard with little white wire fences around them. So, I take my monster outside to "play"....I set him down in the grass and he starts playing with the weeds and such. Pulling and grabbing. Then I happen to focus a little better on the ground. Cigarette butts....everywhere.....UGH!!! I grab up the monster and proceed to try and kick them with my feet into a pile to be swept up later. Hundreds of cigarette butts! Whoever had lived here before had a serious problem. Now I'm not trying to be a hypocrite by any means. I used to smoke cigarettes and did until the day I learned I was pregnant. I have not smoked since and am very proud of this. I however would place my butts in an ashtray and not just fling them into the yard. My husband still smokes, much to my dismay but, he smokes outside away from our son and puts the butts in an ashtray that we set out for that purpose. Well...I am off on a rant now....back to the topic. When we first looked at this rental property we were told so many things would be done before we moved in. Including that the yard would be raked of all cigarette butts. This along with everthing else was a lie. So, I am making the best out of a bad situation and trying my best to find somewhere that is suitable for a family. Terrible...I don't expect much just a little honesty and cleanliness.
First off we just moved due to some very unfortunate circumstances and basically our own stupidity for believing a large coorporate bank would want to help us...even though they said they would. A very unfortunate event indeed but, I digress...and this is a story for a later date.
Our "yard" is shared by us and a house that is in front of ours. This yard has a concrete path that runs directly through the middle of it, reducing it's postage stamp size to well...half. There are also about 5 large rose bushes randomly placed throughout the yard with little white wire fences around them. So, I take my monster outside to "play"....I set him down in the grass and he starts playing with the weeds and such. Pulling and grabbing. Then I happen to focus a little better on the ground. Cigarette butts....everywhere.....UGH!!! I grab up the monster and proceed to try and kick them with my feet into a pile to be swept up later. Hundreds of cigarette butts! Whoever had lived here before had a serious problem. Now I'm not trying to be a hypocrite by any means. I used to smoke cigarettes and did until the day I learned I was pregnant. I have not smoked since and am very proud of this. I however would place my butts in an ashtray and not just fling them into the yard. My husband still smokes, much to my dismay but, he smokes outside away from our son and puts the butts in an ashtray that we set out for that purpose. Well...I am off on a rant now....back to the topic. When we first looked at this rental property we were told so many things would be done before we moved in. Including that the yard would be raked of all cigarette butts. This along with everthing else was a lie. So, I am making the best out of a bad situation and trying my best to find somewhere that is suitable for a family. Terrible...I don't expect much just a little honesty and cleanliness.
Sunday, March 11, 2012
I'll be right back....honestly I will.
As my first blog entry I had thought about doing a bit of background on myself and how I found myself where I am today. However after contemplating all the things I could write about I decided that was just a bit too boring to start with. I am just going to jump right in feet first and see what happens.
Naming a blog is a serious thing. I have been sitting for days on several ideas for naming this blog. I had many whimsical, silly, spiritual and practical blog names scribbled on a scrap of paper just waiting for me to decide. I wanted it to say not only the main idea behind the blog as a whole but, I wanted it to speak something of me as well. Sitting on the sofa this morning, laptop in lap, I ran some of the titles by my husband. Much like the naming of our son, I got a couple half hearted, "mm hm"s and a few other "yeah"s. Except unlike naming our son when it finally came down to it I was left to decide for myself.
My son, the monster as I will call him for blogging purposes, woke from his nap with the usual yell from the bedroom. Opening the door to the room I see him doing his normal "I'm awake" routine. Standing in his bed, yelling at the top of his lungs and upon seeing me smiling from ear to ear. "Silly baby."
Returning to the living room, monster in hand, I say to my husband..."I don't know what to name this @#x$*! blog. I pass the monster to his daddy and proceed to the kitchen to fetch a bottle. Much to my dismay the monster begins to yell and cry because mommy has now left the room. This is normal for him and what's normal for me is to say "I'll be right back!"..............pouring a bottle........I yell to my husband, "Hey that's what I'll name the blog, "I'll be right back!"...."mm hm".....*sigh*...no never mind that.
The name of this blog, Footprints in the sandbox, is reminiscent of a popular spiritual poem. I myself am not very religious but, my husband is a PK (Preachers kid) and I have been influenced by him. I have become more spiritual and thought that this name was not just cute but, that it hints of just a touch of religion and that rings true to me.
Naming a blog is a serious thing. I have been sitting for days on several ideas for naming this blog. I had many whimsical, silly, spiritual and practical blog names scribbled on a scrap of paper just waiting for me to decide. I wanted it to say not only the main idea behind the blog as a whole but, I wanted it to speak something of me as well. Sitting on the sofa this morning, laptop in lap, I ran some of the titles by my husband. Much like the naming of our son, I got a couple half hearted, "mm hm"s and a few other "yeah"s. Except unlike naming our son when it finally came down to it I was left to decide for myself.
My son, the monster as I will call him for blogging purposes, woke from his nap with the usual yell from the bedroom. Opening the door to the room I see him doing his normal "I'm awake" routine. Standing in his bed, yelling at the top of his lungs and upon seeing me smiling from ear to ear. "Silly baby."
Returning to the living room, monster in hand, I say to my husband..."I don't know what to name this @#x$*! blog. I pass the monster to his daddy and proceed to the kitchen to fetch a bottle. Much to my dismay the monster begins to yell and cry because mommy has now left the room. This is normal for him and what's normal for me is to say "I'll be right back!"..............pouring a bottle........I yell to my husband, "Hey that's what I'll name the blog, "I'll be right back!"...."mm hm".....*sigh*...no never mind that.
The name of this blog, Footprints in the sandbox, is reminiscent of a popular spiritual poem. I myself am not very religious but, my husband is a PK (Preachers kid) and I have been influenced by him. I have become more spiritual and thought that this name was not just cute but, that it hints of just a touch of religion and that rings true to me.
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